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Motivation is described as the driving force behind your actions. This is great when you have power to that engine but what happens when the petrol runs out and the engine stops?

It’s common to become unmotivated when you don’t enjoy every day life. When hard work goes unnoticed and your efforts are taken for granted. You end up feeling unappreciated.

Do you feel stuck in a rut? Sluggish, bored, unhappy and dissatisfied? Do you find it hard to get out of bed in the morning?

It could be that you’re stuck in your comfort zone, only you’re quickly discovering that it’s not that comfortable. Comfort zones feel safe but are they?

If you have a goal that you want to achieve or you realise that you are not living your life to the fullest then this is for you. Not realising your full potential and missing life opportunities lowers your confidence and self-esteem.

Keeping yourself stuck sucks the joy and happiness from you, affecting your work life, your relationships and life becomes dull and grey. Your energy levels plummet and life feels heavy and a struggle.

You know that this gets worse gradually over time until you are so uncomfortable you really need to do something about it.

There’s a lot of information out there about lack of motivation and self-help tips. What they’re generally not telling you is what is really causing this.

You can get stuck in a vicious cycle of wanting to change something, yet there is a conflicting part of you that is almost compulsive in wanting you to stay exactly as you are. You’ll find this intensely frustrating and wonder why it is that you can’t move forward.

Now is the time to stop beating yourself up because there is a very good reason for this.

All behaviours are unconscious, you won’t necessarily be aware of why you do what you do. What you can be sure about is that any behaviour has been set up by you, with the most positive of intentions. Created for your wellbeing.

There is always a good reason that you stop yourself and it’s usually fear. It’s an attempt to create the illusion of safety.

You want a better job but fear you don’t have the skills or the ability to do it, so avoid that possibility. You want to lose weight but doing so may mean you will be noticed and you prefer to hide. You want more friends but feel socially awkward so you avoid the feelings of embarrassment that come with that.

Whatever it is that you want to achieve or do, the most important and impactful step you can take is to get very clear. Firstly about what it is that you want and then secondly, to uncover the real reason that you’re not doing. Do you need help? You can send me a message here: