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The grip of anxiety

The grip of anxiety

Are you worrying and do you get stressed ?  It’s that awful feeling of stomach churning and being on edge like something dreadful is about to happen. You can’t relax and it just feels awful. Anxiety and panic attacks can really spoil your day to day life, and it’s...

If only I could fix him.

If only I could fix him.

What’s he doing that needs sorting? Is it caused by something in his past? Does he need to get in touch with his emotions? Does he just need to understand you? Maybe he should listen and put his Therapist’s head on to help you deal with your emotions? Have you given...

Letting go of the hurt

Letting go of the hurt

What are you holding on to? What did he do or say that grips you into unease and hurt? The slightest thing that happens is a reminder and things flood back, re-visiting the upset and the memory. Maybe there are many things that have happened. Resentment festers,...

5 Steps to a Happy and Successful Relationship

5 Steps to a Happy and Successful Relationship

Let’s get right to it: 1. Communication   You know in learning all I did through my training I’m amazed anyone gets on at all. There are so many mis-matches in communication styles, the different between men and women and individual ways of people saying what...

Why doesn’t he understand me?

Why doesn’t he understand me?

Manglish and Womanspeak are two very different languages spoken in relationships and this is what causes so many misunderstandings and conflicts. You’ve thought you’re speaking the same language haven’t you? Same words, sentences and phrases. It’s English after all,...

What to do if you’re feeling crappy

What to do if you’re feeling crappy

First off …. Stop the overthinking ..it’s not working is it? Has it given you the results or the clarity that you’ve been looking for? Does constant analysis resolve the pain? Take a deep breath and let’s look at what’s happening here and what you can do about it....

Navigating your way through the current threat of Coronavirus

Navigating your way through the current threat of Coronavirus

Everyone is having to do things differently right now and that’s ok. No, it’s not, I hear you shout but it really is. Fighting against what “is” is what causes turmoil, not the actual event itself. Adjusting to new norms is totally possible and can be done peacefully...